Why do I say the “Art Of Lasting Longer”?
Well, because you need to apply a little bit of skill and creativity to lasting longer in bed. In other words, you need to find the right solution for you, and you need to use it with a little bit of commitment to lasting longer during sex.
As you’ve probably seen, there are many programs on the Internet which claim to help you stop coming too quickly. I’ve researched them all, and I have to say they’re pretty disappointing.
In fact, there are only one or two which really stand out. Most of them have vast amounts of information, which is interesting up to a point, but pretty irrelevant if what you really want and need is to find out how to develop male endurance in bed and satisfy a woman.
Certainly when I was trying to cure my problems in this area, soon after I got into my first long-term relationship, I felt frustrated that I just didn’t seem to be able to last longer during sex no matter how hard I tried
I was even more frustrated by the fact that the programs I bought just turned out to be moneymaking scams or rip-offs. I know that sounds a bit harsh, but some of the stuff out there is ridiculous – as you might already know.
In the end I chose a program which bills itself as “Staying Power”. This is a program written by a professional sex therapist with 12 years’ experience helping men overcome sexual dysfunction.
There are several things I like about it: first of all it’s simple. The instructions are easy to follow and set out specifically, so that you have a week by week program of what you have to do and how you do it.
You might be wondering what that means. Well, if you want to last longer in bed, there are several things you have to do. The first is that you have to take a more relaxed attitude to sex, so that your anxiety doesn’t spiral out of control, or even just so that you don’t feel nervous or apprehensive around sex.
All of those things make your adrenalin spike, which in turn makes you come more quickly. To last longer you need to be relaxed.
Therefore the program gives you complete instructions on how to be relaxed during sex, and what physical practical approaches you can take to sex that will ensure you remain relaxed.
That includes breathing exercises, physical relaxation, and the right choice of sexual positions – as well as a good section of information on the way you should think about sex.
The second thing you have to do is use a series of exercises to train your body to respond to sexual stimulation more slowly, so that you don’t become sexually aroused as quickly.
In a way this is really the key to developing greater staying power and male stamina in bed. The author of the program illustrates every step of these exercises with photographs so you can both read and see what you have to do.
It involves things such as becoming much more “body-centred” by using sensual touch so that a large part of sex is about getting aroused in your body, rather than relying just on fantasy to get aroused.
These are exercises you can do with your partner, and they’re great fun, very erotic and very sensual. In fact these exercises alone will probably make you much more comfortable with sex and much less likely to cum quickly.
The third thing is to become aware how near or far from climax you are, in other words, how high or low your arousal may be.
Most men with premature ejaculation find that they come very quickly, often quite unexpectedly, and they have no control over the speed with which their climax comes upon them.
By going through a series of exercises which the author of this program described in detail you can become much more sensitive to how aroused you are, so that your orgasm is never going to creep up on you unexpectedly. And the point of this is that once you know how near your climax is, you can easily last longer in bed by doing things that slow down the increase in your level of sexual arousal.